Experiencing Good Vibrations by Deb Snyder

Experiencing Good Vibrations
By Deb Snyder

The world is beginning to comprehend the healing vibration of the Universe, which resonates within all people, places, and things. Incorporating vibration techniques can be done in a myriad of ways; simply follow your intuition as to what might work for your family.
Several of my clients whose children are considered by doctors to be on the “Autism Spectrum” report their kids as having a sensitivity and fondness for vibration in appliances, stones, and specific places on their property. I have found it is best to let children take the lead and support what they are naturally drawn to. One child in particular collected rocks and felt comforted by them. It wasn’t until the mother took a closer look did she realize each rock had bits of quartz embedded somewhere in them. It was then easy to acknowledge her child naturally gravitated toward these healing stones. I have seen similar traits in other children with regard to shells, leaves, shapes, and colors.
My client, Don, not only uses his intuitive energy skills with his children, but also with his father, who has Alzheimer’s disease. Slowly watching his dad deteriorate in awareness and communication abilities at a nursing facility has been painful for Don. Constantly striving to remain connected, he brings in items from home, realizing the energy of certain favorite things stir a reaction from his father and even stimulate conversation about their past. A beloved religious medallion seems to provide the most comfort and healing for them both. Their shared energetic connection, called the Field of Intuitive Harmony, is there for all to explore, regardless to whether you are the parent…or the child. Don demonstrates this beautifully by tapping into the vibrations and honoring the energetic connections with items from he and his father’s life.
Remember, everything has a vibration. Your resonance with an object, person, or thing may offer you a unique opportunity to tap into Divine energy. Here are some suggestions on how you can experience good vibrations:

• Decorate yourself and your home with natural stones and crystals for their beauty and healing properties.
• Use a quartz crystal, tuning fork, or vibrating massager to activate your own or your family’s energy centers.
• Play with rocks! As a family, collect and track your sensitivity to certain stones. Why do you like them? How do they make you feel? Head out on a field trip to a rock museum or a local quarry.
• Go for a walk in the woods to tap into the Earth’s energies. Dowse for water, minerals, or even caves. Make it a fun outing for the whole family.
• When you feel resonance within your body, ask your higher self for more details and expect the answer to come to you. Resonance is often experienced as the lift in our heart, the bounce in our step or even a subtle all over vibration. It is a feeling of deep connectedness.

Deb Snyder, PhD is the author of Intuitive Parenting (Beyond Words 2010) and the creator of the HeartGlow method. She is an inspirational speaker and teacher to groups large and small and offers instruction on intuitive parenting in private sessions, classes and seminars throughout the country. FMI visit www.heartglowparenting.com

Intuitive Intelligence Comes of Age by Dr. Caron Goode

Intuitive Intelligence Comes of Age
by Dr. Caron B. Goode

Intuition is what your brain knows how to do when you leave it alone.
Dr. Paul MacLean, former Chief of Brain
Evolution, National Institute of Mental Health, 1988

In today’s world, we focus on the child’s natural core genius. Intuitive intelligence is part of children’s core genius. This natural intelligence can grow into a unique talent. Children with intuitive intelligences are ready to take their place in the world. Our job is to assist them.
Intuitive intelligence is an essential part of the human mind, which includes our conscious processes and unconscious processes—thought perception, emotion, will, memory, and imagination. Intuitive intelligence involves nurturing self-awareness of the inner world, the outer world, and the connection between them.

Recognition for the intuitive mind with its way of discovery and knowing has advanced significantly in the last decades.

What started with Carl Jung’s concept that people have four primary paths for processing information has evolved into the intricacies of brain mapping in the field of neuroscience. We know how we learn, which part of the brain is involved and how to reprogram patterns that don’t work through the concept of neuroplasticity.

The renaissance of intuitive intelligence has arrived. Let’s trace the progress of intuition over the last several decades as it made its way into mainstream thought and awareness. Only recently has western, modern society accepted and found intuitive intelligence useful.

Intuitive Intelligences
Intuitive intelligence stands as an entity deserving recognition. Brain mapping using EEG topography found that creativity and intuition are associated with theta waves usually linked with daydreaming or fantasizing. Theta waves are calm states in which intellectual activity at the conscious level isn’t occurring. Children and adults with ADHD produce excessive theta waves.
Intuitive intelligence operates on gestalts or whole pieces of information and functions from our memory, not logic. Intuitive ability is finally recognized as the fuel behind innovation, creative thinking, inspiration and psychic experiences.
Let’s clarify terms:
 Intuitive intelligence – a system of processing information from a gestalt that arrives spontaneously, beyond intellectually known information or evident thought. Every human has an intuitive processing system. Like any intelligence, different people will have varying degrees of strength.
 Intuition - a talent or ability to grasp or understand spontaneous perception, feeling or information. This talent would be a strength of the intuitive intelligence range.
Like musical prodigies and math geniuses, children display their talents differently.
Intuitive children with highly tuned sensory perceptions display their gifts in what our cultures might think are unconventional ways. For example, how many parents are ready to believe that their children see ghosts or who, at a young age, have an entrepreneurial idea that could be successful?

Education, parenting and psychology professionals recognize that children have multiple intelligences, and intuitive intelligence is the new kid on the block. All intelligences exist on a continuum of normal to gifted. There are math prodigies, musical geniuses and intuitive psychics.

The traits for intuitive intelligence cluster into several groups: The children of today stretch and challenge our learning. Parents of intuitive children need first to commit to the role of parent. We have to direct expressions of inventive and creative thoughts, help empaths deal with emotional overwhelm and establish resilience, face fears of ghosts. Children with intuitive intelligence, challenged by cultural systems which do not know how to connect with or teach them, need permission to follow their personal path and optimize their talent. We can give that permission and model it for them by developing our intuitive parenting. We also need to become intuitive parents.

©2009 by Dr. Caron Goode. Dr. Goode is the founder of the Academy for Coaching Parents International (www.academyforcoachingparents.com) at the forefront of the parent coaching movement to disseminate the coaching model of empowerment for parents. Her most recent book, Raising Intuitive Children at www.raisingintuitivechilren.com has won the National Best Book award for the parenting\family category.

5 Ways to Discover If Your Child Is Intuitive by Dr. Caron Goode

5 Ways to Discover If Your Child Is Intuitive
By Dr. Caron Goode
www.acpi.biz

Every child has the capacity for high intuitive intelligence just as each could be a musical maestro or a mathematical genius. Intuition is a natural intelligence that all children possess. Intuitive development depends on the environment, parental support, and education. Some children are highly skilled or gifted in this talent in the same way that others have a talent for math, music, languages, or physical dexterity. By determining whether your child has high intuitive intelligence, you’ll find the clues to nurture her talent and help her use this to find her success in life.

Intuitive intelligence is one system of processing information from a gestalt that arrives spontaneously, beyond intellectually known information or evident thought. Every human has an intuitive processing system. Like any intelligence, different people will have varying degrees of strength.

Children’s intuitive intelligence manifests in different ways along a continuum of normal skills to gifted talents:

1. Children who learn through feelings and process information kinesthetically. (Intuitive learning mode)

2. Children who are creative and artistic and intuition drives their motivation. (Artistic drive for exploring and creating)

3. Children whose intuitive intelligence is like a radar reading and empathizing with other people’s feelings. (Empathy and interpersonal skills)

4. Children who have intuitive episodes like dreams or a flash of creative insight. (Deep insight, precognition)

5. Children who are psychic. (Awareness of non-physical worlds through all senses or a specific sense.)

Intuition is the common denominator of these talents and, all children have the same intuitive capacities. Like musical prodigies, children display their talents differently.

Education, parenting, and psychology professionals recognize that intuitive intelligence is the new kid on the block. Parents who know how to spot intuitive intelligence may find an overlap of skill clusters.

1. Creative and inspired artists - John always heard music in his head, and at age five, his teacher referred him for psychological testing because he hummed all the time. John was also a daydreamer. His mother said no to psychological testing and found a school that supported John’s musical creativity. By age 11, he was playing the music he heard in his head when he wasn’t in school. Music absorbed his attention and poured from his soul. When others worried about his social skills and his lack of other interests, he stuck to his creativity, and it paid off. John’s dream of playing in a band came true in high school and continued through his adult years.

2. Sensitive and empathic feelers - Eleven-year-old Laurie was crying silently. She had just finished reading the book, The Yearling by Marjorie Kinnan Rawlings. The story portrayed the life of a boy named Jody Baxter, a solitary soul who developed a friendship with a deer. Her dad sat on the corner of her bed, ready to listen. Laurie discussed her sadness from the book, which reminded her of a classmate who was sad because his brother, a Marine, had died recently in the Middle East. “I feel it all here, Dad.” Laurie pressed her heart like she was holding her emotions inside.

3. Talents involving inner psychic awareness - Preschool children have invisible friends. Psychic teens may experience deja-vus, like they been somewhere before. Some children experience strong dreams that feel real to them, and some children see and speak with angels who are their friends or guides.


Our kids need our support and you, the parent, are the only one who knows how to interpret your intuitive experiences or those of your children. Knowing the challenges faced by the intuitive child enables parents to discuss, plan and help with personality and skill development.

©2009 by Dr. Caron Goode. Dr. Goode is the founder of the Academy for Coaching Parents International (www.academyforcoachingparents.com) at the forefront of the parent coaching movement to disseminate the coaching model of empowerment for parents. Her most recent book, Raising Intuitive Children at www.raisingintuitivechilren.com has won the National Best Book award for the parenting\family category.

Discipline and Spirit by Susan Gale

Below is taken from Chapter Seven, “Discipline and the Spirit” of Spiritual Parenting

Discipline and Spirit

Discipline, only after love, is the most important thing a parent can give a child. However, discipline is not to be confused with punishment. Punishment is probably the least effective thing a parent can offer a child. Punishment only teaches children to lie, make excuses, learn ways to avoid being caught, and resent authority as well as create innumerable emotional problems. It is generally arbitrarily administered and designed to create suffering, which is not our natural state of being.

Discipline is the ability to control oneself and one’s actions. Discipline is based on a partnership with the child in a movement towards being able to express the best that is within oneself. Discipline is allowing natural consequences to occur, providing help to the child when needed to get past those natural consequences. Most deeply spiritual people have had to exercise supreme discipline in regards to their physical and mental endurance during their preparations, which causes them to draw upon their spiritual strength to bear up under their ordeals. Edgar Cayce himself was told that he developed the ability to go outside his body in order to heal his wounds.

Parents can best teach discipline when they do not fake reality. In remembering the Law of Self, we are to know the truth of our beings. We do not pretend that things are otherwise than what they are. Maslow heralded this ability in his eight characteristics of the self-actualized person: the ability to shed defense mechanisms.

Conflict Resolution: Conflict is inevitable. It helps us to face our shortcomings, develops strength of character, and helps us define our values. What is important is that we are able to resolve conflict without verbal or emotional violence. The first step to resolving a conflict that occurs within the family is to decide just whose problem the conflict is. Too often the parents take ownership of all conflicts, attempting to settle them for their children. If the conflict is between two of the children in the family, then the problem is theirs to resolve. While the skill of resolving conflict requires initial guidance, the children will eventually be able to resolve conflicts, if indeed the situations escalate to that level, independently. Based on the Creative Conflict Resolution program and the teaching of Joseph Bruchac of the Abenaki tribe, here are the three questions that need to be asked:

1. What happened?
Each child needs to state their version of what happened. The other child cannot interrupt (a talking stick is often helpful during this as only the person who holds the stick can talk… parents cannot even interrupt!). Children soon learn that each person has a slightly, if not drastically, different version of the event!

2. What did I do to contribute to the problem?
This is probably the most difficult part for the child. Names cannot be mentioned during this part. Thus the child cannot say “He knocked down my building so I hit him.” She hit him because she became lost in her emotions, and she needs to say it this way so that she takes responsibility for her actions. Sometimes the child needs to say simply, “I acted like a victim and let her wreck everything.” Sometimes the child needs to say, “I teased him until he could not take it any more. I went too far.”

Being able to state honestly how she contributed to the problem goes a long ways towards shedding defense mechanisms. Defense mechanisms are a great deterrent to solving conflicts as so much time and much energy is wasted trying to get past them.

3. What I need from you to get along from this point on.
This is when the parent must relinquish all control. The children will come to terms as to how they will get along. After all, getting along is the goal… not punishment! Sometimes a simple “sorry” suffices. Sometimes doing the other child’s chore is enough.

When the conflict is between the parent and child, the parent at this step most often wants to know how s/he will know that this will not happen again. This is a time to talk about trust and how important it is to a family being strong. This is a time to talk about how important it is that the parent can depend upon the child to keep the family strong and walking in peace. This is the time to talk about how very important it is that no one pushes another beyond what they can endure as that is not the way of love, but rather the way of being destructive.

Susan Gale, co-author of Psychic Children and Soulful Parenting, is the manager of A Place of Light in Cherry Valley, MA. With 30+ years of professional experience working with families as a teacher, camp director and owner of a children’s center that included a pre-K through grade accredited school, she currently helps people of all ages understand, develop and control their intuitive gifts. For more info, please visit www.placeoflight.net.

Helping Children Find Spirituality Through Nature by Susan Gale

Helping Children Find Spirituality through Nature

When Edgar Cayce was asked, while in a trance state, what was the best way to teach children about spirituality, he responded in Reading 5747-1 by saying,
Then, as to the development of the mind of the child, develop its imaginative forces rather than the material or objective forces. Acquaint such a mind with the activities in nature, and train especially in the laws of recompense as is seen in nature day by day. Also in those activities that make for a clean body, a clean mind, and the same recompense as in nature should be required in the activities of the developing mind of the individual. A clean, healthy body makes for a better indwelling of a healthy, clean mind, so that the spirit may manifest the better.
Nowhere better than in nature may we show our children how living within the Universal Laws provides us with life’s abundance. We can also show how when a seed falls in a place lacking the necessary balance, it will not flourish. These parallels between nature and our own lives about abundance and balance are endless.
Watching the rhythms in the natural cycles can lead to becoming aware of the cycles in one’s own body. Watching the perseverance of a squirrel trying to get to its food can lead to talks about perseverance in one’s life. Understanding the place each being has in the whole plan can help the child understand there is a master plan and that each of us is essential in maintaining that balance. Seeing what happens in a stream that is not kept clean is a startling reminder of what can happen in one’s own body when it is not kept clean inside and out.
Through nature, you can help your child focus and learn to remain still. Birds are fascinating creatures to watch, but they fly away instantly when there are sudden movements or loud noises. I can remember spending much time with my son, and then my granddaughters, watching birds in the yard. We also would watch the butterflies taking long drinks from the flowers near our front door. We would set out sweets and watch the ants cart it all back to their homes. Each of these events requires the same focus, the same stillness as is required for meditation.
When exploring nature with your child, it does not matter if anyone knows the right names. You can make up your own as you begin your adventures! In one of the state parks where we often took the children hiking, there was a tree shaped like a flamingo’s neck. Of course, each summer the experienced camper could not wait to tell the new children about our very own “flamingo tree.” Yet it is also a good feeling to find a plant, animal, insect, or bird in a guidebook and learn its correct name.
Patterns are another wonderful aspect of nature. Not only are there the infinite patterns in the tree bark, shadows, and leaves, but also the patterns of the cycles. Nothing about the natural world is wasted in its patterns of growth, decomposition and renewal. And while the realities of the food chain are not always pleasant to encounter, it does provide a great tool to talk about the nature of intent. For in the food chain, the intent is to survive rather than to harm or to make sport of causing death.
With the intuitive child, nature can bring even more delights. Many of the children can see the fairy families as well as the other wee folk that live in the yard. They can easily sense, see, and/or feel the auras of the plants and trees and can learn to read the health of these beings as easily as they can the health of people. It is also a wonderful time to learn to communicate with the animals, insects and other life forms.
Children can find plants that heal by this kind of communication as well as plants that will provide nourishment. While it is always wise to confirm their impressions, they will eventually learn what friendly plants “feel” like and what the harmful ones “feel” like as well.
That some children do know how to use plants to help themselves without any instruction is illustrated by the following story. One summer, three-year-old Ella got upset about something no one understood. While in the car with her mother, she just started bawling. By the time she got to her grandmother’s house, she was almost out of control; yet she still could not tell anyone what was wrong. Her family then tried many things to help her calm down, but to no avail. Her grandmother finally just opened the door and sent her out into the front yard. As she walked outside, Ella took a deep breath, walked over to a Cosmos and buried her face in the center of one of the flowers. She then took some of the petals and rubbed them all over her face. After standing there for a minute or two, Ella then returned to the house completely calm and refreshed.
Knowing how to communicate with the animals greatly enriches a child’s experiences when outside or even in places like a zoo. Once, when our school visited the Bronx Zoo, I commented that I would like to have seen one of the animals at a closer range. Several minutes later, one of the boys ran up to me and said, “it took me all this time to convince it to come to see you, and it will be really mad if you do not come!” With that he took my arm and led me back to the animal, which was indeed
Nature can also teach children another perspective on time. In the natural world, beings eat when they are hungry, rest when tired, and play when so moved! Life is not regulated artificially by a clock, but rather by the inner clock that is present within each of us. The sense of timelessness prevails in the natural setting.
If we desire to teach our children an appreciation of life and its cycles and rhythms, then spending time outdoors is one of the best places to do so. It does not need to be in a wilderness setting. A square foot of ground will also suffice, for it also contains an ecosystem from which much can be learned and appreciated. Whether children possess intuitive abilities or not, they can each learn to become more at one with the cycle of life that keeps our planet thriving.


Bibliography
Brown, Tom, with Judy Brown. Tom Brown’s Field Guide to Nature and Survival for Children. The Berkley Publishing Group. New York, 1989
Susan Gale, co-author of Psychic Children and Soulful Parenting, is the manager of A Place of Light in Cherry Valley, MA. With 30+ years of professional experience working with families as a teacher, camp director and owner of a children’s center that included a pre-K through grade accredited school, she currently helps people of all ages understand, develop and control their intuitive gifts. For more info, please visit www.placeoflight.net.

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New for November!

To start the month of November, I will be posting some articles from some of my colleagues and authors who I find inspiring. I hope you enjoy them as much as I have!

Helping Children Make Right Choices by Doreen Fisher

Taking Shame and Blame Out of the Equation

Helping Children Make Right Choices

As a parent, I frequently get the opportunity to teach the difference between “right” and “wrong”, even though I often find this to be an elusive distinction since it can be a relative debate. This time was different. It took no teaching on my part, only listening.

I was washing my children’s clothes and pulled something out of my 6 year old son’s shorts pocket; it was a tiny little mouse with a long ribbon tail that I didn’t recognize. As I turned it over, I realized it was actually a button -- the cutest little button I’d ever seen. As we had just been to the fabric store 2 days before, I knew where it had come from, and unfortunately, knew we had not paid for it. I braced myself for the conversation on “stealing”.

When I pulled it out of my pocket at dinner, he began shifting in his seat, not sure what to say. As I began asking him questions, he jumped up and ran to his room crying. I followed him and asked him why he was crying since I merely asked him if he knew where it came from. I reminded him the importance of being completely honest. He told me that it fell off of the button card at the fabric store and he put it in his pocket because it was so cute, then he started to cry harder. I asked him why he was crying and his response was, “My heart said not to take it, but I didn’t listen. I should have listened to my heart.”

What a great lesson. He wasn’t upset because he might get punished, he wasn’t upset because he had to return it – he was upset because he didn’t honor his true self. He knew the right choice, but was tempted by the cute little mouse. He got the lesson without me going into shame, shame, shame. He understood stealing was wrong. He understood why he had to return it. I didn’t have to break his spirit for him to get the lesson. So many times we feel the need to break down our children so that they feel bad when they do something “wrong”. If they feel bad, they’ll learn the lesson, right? Unfortunately, through that process, they often learn the wrong lesson. They learn that they are bad, not the act itself. The act is merely a lesson, but if we put too much shame on top of it, it can get transferred into a belief by the child that they are bad because they stole something, or hit someone, or engaged in hurtful gossip. Once a child starts to believe that they are bad, the importance of self forgiveness can get lost. It’s important to understand when we make a mistake and it’s important to forgive ourselves for making that mistake. Mistakes are part of learning.

The conversation that followed with my son was that it was all okay. We are all learning and there are lots of opportunities for lessons that help us to grow. What did he learn? “To listen to my heart.” Perfect. That is the lesson.

Doreen Fisher is a musician, home educator, business owner and philanthropist. She lives in Dallas with her husband, their 2 incredibly intuitive children, Sammy the cat and Tibblett the bunny. dfisher@parentinginawareness.com; www.parentinginawareness.com; www.rainbowoutsourcing.com; www.pientre.com

Parenting in Awareness by Doreen Fisher

PARENTING IN AWARENESS

Using awareness to deviate from learned parenting behaviors.

I remember the very moment that my daughter was born barely 9 years ago. It’s not a moment most mothers would ever forget, but I remember my exact thought…”It’s time to grow up – today.” It’s not that I felt overly immature at the moment just before that, but the immediate knowing that this tiny being was wholly dependent on me and would grow to learn from my every move was cathartic and intimidating at the same time.

A rush of emotions and thoughts came in despite the fact that I had just given birth -- a beautiful, natural, gentle birth, but exhausting nonetheless. I knew at that very moment that it was up to me to break a long history of common parenting styles with which I did not intend to follow. I had no idea just how difficult that would prove to be. Generations of habits, repeat behaviors and semi-conscious parenting were deeper in my psyche than I knew or cared to admit. As my daughter grew and my son was born, the daily stress of parenting brought out the very reactions that I swore would never escape my lips; they fell out or were just barely caught in the nick of time. I quickly learned two important things: 1) I was parenting by design; and 2) it was going to require 24/7 awareness if I was going to succeed in gentle, respectful and non-violent parenting.

I recall one story that my daughter always asks me to repeat. I’m not sure why she likes this story, but it’s almost as if she is reminding me that I’m doing okay and making right choices. My husband was on the road touring with a band and complete exhaustion was becoming a normal existence for me. My newborn son had just been released from NICU with a heart defect and he and I were both decompressing from a bit of ICU psychosis. Needless to say, sleep was a rare treat. I was making dinner and took out some tater tots and put them on the cookie sheet on the stove. My daughter got angry at me because she wanted to eat them out of the bag (she was 3), so she reached up and yanked the cookie sheet off of the stove and the tater tots went flying. I had an immediate reaction and reached my up hand preparing to spank her with about as much force as I could muster when (as if in slow motion) I had a last minute awareness of what I was about to do and instead scooped her up and gave her a big hug. I was shaking and crying. And she was laughing. She gave me a big hug and never knew how close she came to becoming yet another child victim of corporal punishment.

I knew at that moment that it was possible to change the course of history and make new decisions in how we parent our children. I know that the abused grow to become the abuser, but I also know that this is a choice. But, it requires awareness - awareness and intention. We must first set the intention to parent in a gentle, loving manner. Every day I wake up and tell myself that I’m going to parent with love and patience and listen with an open heart. Every night I go to bed and forgive myself for anything that slipped through. And every day, I take responsibility for my actions, make amends for any actions or words that fall outside the scope of what I consider loving and gentle (holding myself to a high standard on that definition) and acknowledge to my children when it was me, not them, who brought out any transgression.

Doreen Fisher is a musician, home educator, business owner and philanthropist. She lives in Dallas with her husband, their 2 incredibly intuitive children, Sammy the cat and Tibblett the bunny. dfisher@parentinginawareness.com; www.parentinginawareness.com; www.rainbowoutsourcing.com; www.pientre.com